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Take Conscious Command of Unexpected Changes



"Your true self no more fears an unexpected change in life than water worries about how it will take the shape of the glass into which it is being poured." - GF

Every day, whether we're aware of it or not, we move through a series of unexpected changes. Today it snowed in Southern Oregon a rare occurrence this time of year. Not even the weatherman predicted it. The spring flowers and budding perennials didn't expect it but they're just fine. Wouldn't it be a relief to honestly know that no matter what happens, we will be just fine? And further, to know that life is mercifully giving us exactly what we need for our spiritual transformation each and every moment. In order to know this we have to get a lot more involved in our interior life

A conscious Naval Commander has the ship and crew's best interest at heart at all times. He is fully present when he is on the captain's deck. His job is to know what possible dangers threaten his ship and what courses of action he can take for each circumstance that arises. He has studied navigation and been vigorously trained to deal with whatever comes up. He can't know what lies ahead but this training will keep him calm and focused through the unexpected. This doesn't mean he performs his duties flawlessly. A conscious commander takes each new circumstance and learns the lesson needed to avoid the same mistakes. His life and the lives of the crew are his responsibility each time he goes to sea.

I haven't been out to sea but I have flown on hundreds of commercial airlines over the years. Each time I enter the plane I try to get a good look at the pilot. I am trying to get a sense of his/her presence. I always love it when I see the pilot on the ground walking around the plane doing the final exterior check. Once I enter the plane my life is in the pilots hands. The same is true inwardly. In order to ever have conscious command I need to be aware of who is commanding the ship.

Do I ever ask, "who is commanding my ship" when:

1.    I am angry, nervous or depressed. Conscious command has a quiet calm. Use these strong indicators to remember yourself.

2.    I am hard and inflexible in my work or family life. It's necessary to hear this state speaking both outwardly and inwardly. The cruelty we see in the world resides in us.


3.    I am soft and sentimental. This is a tough one to see. I have always thought that the soft emotions were all good. They can be, but many times we fall fast asleep thinking what a good person we are because we have a sentimentalized feeling over God, family, a movie or even a dog. Be aware of where these feelings take you.

4.    I allow my senses to lead me. Test each desire by saying no just once. Then see the mind and body howl in rebellion. This ancient saying says it all. "Free from desire you realize the mystery,  Caught in desire you see only the manifestations."

5.    I am judging another person. None of us want to see the self-righteous judge that has a comfortable home in us. We think it's ok to make judgments because it's so clear where others are at fault. Catch the judge sooner than later.

This list could go on for pages. I encourage you to make your own. Typically when I am in a negative state, I don't look to see who is commanding my interior ship.  I blame the state on "outside" people and events. Unless I see that I am a divided human being I can never truly be in relationship with the unexpected (which is the present moment.) The whole point of our inner work is to uncover who and what is taking us over moment to moment so that we can begin to have conscious command of our lives. As Guy said in last night's talk "find out what matters most now... in this (and every) moment and you find your true self (conscious commander.)

Doug Norby/Alive Guide Host
4/16/09







 




 

Comments

 

lovelight1015 said:

Wow!  Powerful piece, Doug......it really spoke to me and I love the quote about being free from desire.   This writing is a great reminder to myself that to be truly self-commanding, I must be in the moment and be aware of everything that comes up in me, bring it in to the light and let it go.  True work, hard work and hands down the most rewarding work possible.

Thanks Doug,

Stephanie

April 16, 2009 1:00 PM [Delete]
 

nino said:

Hello!!!

Every sentence is worth meditating upon. Beautiful teachings. I agree the list could go on, but working only on those few pointers I am sure will be truly transforming.

I must manifest gratefulness towards to every single step of the way that makes possible that we get to share all of this.

Thank you Doug,

Nino.

April 16, 2009 2:23 PM [Delete]
 

clydeman50 said:

Recently, one morning, before my mind had fully come into play; before it had decided what mattered; it had a flashback to a time in early childhood, when it wasn't necessary toview matters with any separation whatever.

My father, a missionary, was taking his family back to Brazil on a cargo ship, the "Del Mar". I was three. New Orleans to Sao Luis.

It was late evening, standing on the rear deck. It was obvious that we were moving, the drone of the engine was far below pushing us further and further out into the dark sea. Something about the certainty of movement in counterpoint to the stationary stars in the inky blackness is an odd sensation. Not that I was old enough to distinguish a paradox.

In a sense, my father was commander of that moment.

It's unlikely that few times in my life if any would I feel as secure as I felt then.

I would come to question him and every thought and thing about the world, and to this day.

When something as monumental as a families faith and other shattering events shift you in insanely oblque angles it requires 'supreme command' for any guy or girl to walk steadily on.

    Just as you quoted Churchill, Doug,

    "Finding yourself in hell, keep walking."

    Clyde

April 17, 2009 11:15 PM [Delete]
 

barbara said:

The idea about who is "in command of my ship" is so important.

This morning I woke up and about a dozen discontented thoughts were running rampant in my mind.  Thoughts like, "what if this situation doesn't happen, or if this situation does happen?"   Or " I have a big project that must be accomplished.  How will it ever get done." What a way to start the day!!  Negativity had seeped into my life and I hadn't even gotten out of bed.

Fortunately at that moment I realized that there was virtually no one in command.  At least no one with any strength or with my best interest at heart.  It seemed that on deck  were just a bunch of weak, tired, and confused commanders  who'd already given up  the ship.

Unconscious, rambling thought  is the default mode of the mind.  But it doesn't have to be that way.  There is a Commander above thought, but before I can connect with It, I have to abandon my allegiance to the negative commanders.  That's hard because they present such a good case for depression and worry.

To be under the order  of the True commander, I find I must endure  a "no man's land" space where  no one seems to be in command.  The helm seems abandoned. I can say "I will not follow the orders of a negative state," but there's  nothing in it's place to guide me.  There exists for a time, only this painful emptiness.  

Bearing and watching this emptiness seems to be the price I must  pay to allow the True, Kind commander live my life for me.   Life then  transforms on its own.  The refusal to follow the negative and instead surrender to the Unknown is the Work I must continually do to have a Real Life.

April 20, 2009 11:43 AM [Delete]
 

wcattin said:

I was looking for what mostly constitue my inner life. Clearly, the thoughts and emotions are super dominant and they all turn around oppositions (me and everything else (everything that is not me), likes and dislikes, want and don't want, attractions and repulsions, acceptances and rejections, joys and disappointments, regrets and hopes, good remembrances and bad remembrances...). So to the question "who is the commander?", it seems it is the duality. And the duality only exists in the mental and emotional plan. So, here begins the work to self freedom, to go beyond that plan. Sometimes I feel discouraged, but little by little, and with watchfulness I can see more and more clearly the lie of discouragement. It is a little step in a long path. It is still the ego that pretends to want to surrender, I can feel that. But with patience and perseverance, it must be possible to know all its tricks and to unknot all the emotional knots.

April 23, 2009 11:40 PM [Delete]