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Wake Up and Stop Carrying your Story


One of the strongest spiritual fantasies that Doug holds is that one day he will never be disturbed.  One day he will be able to deflect the bothers of this world and maintain the stillness and composure of his hard sought "spiritual countenance." When things aren't going the way Doug wants, he loves to imagine the Hawaiian beach or the remote mountain retreat where nothing can bother him again. Here's what reality is actually trying to show me. Guy has recently said that we are meant to be constantly disturbed. He goes on to say that disturbance and awareness must go together. If we are not feeling a continual inner disturbance, we will go back to sleep in the mechanical life. The disturbance is actually our ally to keep us awake to God's voice.  What a radical concept for our disturbance deflecting society.

So our task when the disturbance arrives is to work harder to come awake and attend to what the moment is trying to reveal. An example for me would be my frequent frustration with a business associate. I am quick to blame him for the disturbance but rarely do I ask to see what is it in me that I need to see. The disturbance is actually neutral.  It's our identification and resistance to it that torments us. The moment is actually shining a light on something that is hidden and thus holding us back from needed discoveries.  (You would think we would want to know this but we fight it tooth and nail.) Truth is saying: look at this, its clear that you are not free in this area of your life.  Wake up and stop carrying the same old sad story that you carry everyday.  No matter how persuasive the state, I must refuse to carry it past the moment of recognition. For me, this is the most difficult part of my spiritual work, letting go of the disturbance. Once I give the negative reaction the nod that it's OK to begin to write the story, it then builds its case with the help of my staff of Pulitzer Prize winning writers, which immediately separates me from God's life.

At the end of class last night, Guy shared a powerful exercise, a prayer.  "God, please show me what I need to see about myself in order to be an authentic human being, despite the cost."  This prayer must be said in true sincerity.  It struck me after Guy said it, in the way in which he said it, that unless I can constantly be uttering this prayer, with a right heart, I have no real chance to change.  The mechanical life is so strong that I need to have a constant prayer before me to help. Then every disturbance can offer a gateway to higher world instead of an excuse to torment myself and others.

So what will it take to remember that prayer and stop carrying my self-justifying story? Drop the reasons and stories and keep the wish to become a true human being in front of me at all times. Never forget your true purpose of why you are sitting here occupying space. There are always plenty of disturbances to help me if I will only use them properly. It's like the old Aqua Velva after-shave commercial when the guy slaps himself on the face and says, "thanks I needed that." I have to begin to be thankful for every slap on the face instead of resisting them. Little by little if one stays close to an authentic spiritual teaching and practices the work daily, we have a chance to taste the life we are intended to live every day. My wish is to drink something of God's life today.

"With every breath I plant the seeds of devotion- I am a farmer of the heart

Day and night I see the face of union- I am the mirror of God

Every moment I shape my destiny with a chisel -I am the carpenter of my own soul"    - Rumi

Doug Norby/ Alive Guide Host/ 5/30/09




 

Comments

 

lovelight1015 said:

Doug,

I really enjoyed, not to mention, got a lot out of, your Blog this morning.  I truly did "need that!"  Didn't realize, until I read your blog, that I was still so tuned into the desire for a disturbance free life - wow!  Great wake up call for me indeed.

Being aware of the disturbance when it occurs is one thing and most of the time I am pretty good at becoming conscious to it at the moment of it happening or sometime shortly thereafter when I have been immersed it in. But really realizing that my reaction to them IS my resistance towards them and that is what is tormenting me in that moment, spiritually and physically - that is something far greater, the Truth of which I realize I can no longer ignore.

I love Guy's prayer you shared as well and have printed it out so I can learn it and allow it to be a genuine desire expressed constantly in my life from now on.  I know from the work I have been doing, seeing the truth of oneself, recognizing the mechanical nature, responses and reactions to life can be very unsettling at times.  And I also know, beyond a shadow of doubt, that it is well worth the effort and there is no turning back.

Starting today, I will work on welcoming disturbances in my life now even more, seeing them as the golden nuggets of truth I need to wake up to and realize, in order to continue to grow.

With an attitude of gratitude,

Stephanie

June 1, 2009 9:15 AM [Delete]
 

msplaykate said:

Great post, Doug. I'd rather work at suffering a disturbance consciously and let it pass through me rather than resist it, which is essentially the same as embracing it. Ironic, isn't it, that by resisting a disturbance I actually ensure that it stays with me and keeps me disturbed!

June 2, 2009 1:20 AM [Delete]
 

peterr said:

Doug,

It all sounds very disturbing to me.

But this is a good thing, as ?I? am not the ?me? of collected ideas.

?I? understands that the ideas that make up ?me? are disturbed and that, in reality, they have to be (whether they are right or wrong) by their opposing ideas.

In Genesis, Adam was disturbed once he became conscious of his state after breaking the rules. God resolved the disturbance by telling Adam to till the earth. The choice here is whether to complain about the punishment which adds to the initial disturbance or to start tilling. Whether Adam was right or wrong is not really so much the point, but rather that he should get to work so that such a negative thoughts should not flourish.

Likewise, I have to till the soil of weedy and binding negative thoughts that pop up in the garden of my mind. I should look upon disturbances as helpful hints as to the whereabouts of weedy thoughts that needs to be up-rooted.

A feel self-inflicted scratch, sting and slap now because my tangled thoughts tell me that what I have written here will be in some way not approved of. This thought is a weed on stony ground ? not too much of a disturbances.  

June 2, 2009 12:02 PM [Delete]
 

wcattin said:

Hello,

I am very often inside those stories too, because there are a couple of them. So, I can understand the mental sufferings of others being caught in their own stories. These stories make suffer not only their hypnotized "owner" but consequently the people around. We could find a perfect example in "Netochka Nezvanova" of Doisoievski with the character of Efimov. He is obsessed by his little story. And he makes him a laughing stock for others but a despicable husband and father. He makes his own misfortune but he does something else, and I will simplify and diminish the cruelty of his actions because it would be too long to detail. Well, he despises his wife, lets her die in total indigence without assistance, and quickly abandons his non biological daughter Netochka. Why ? Because he refuses to admit the insanity of his conceited little story, nothing more - Though he is really gifted for violin (but he never practices it; he only pretends nobody can equal him in "his" art). This is an extreme example of vanity leading to craziness and cruelty. But I can see that my little stories, even the ones wrapped in self-pity, are not different in nature. They are a mental labyrinth imagined for the glory of, and imagined by, the false self (the ego that commands my life). When I try to escape one of them, I end up in another one, and so on...

June 6, 2009 12:35 PM [Delete]
 

clydeman50 said:

...ditto that, bro.

C.

June 6, 2009 4:49 PM [Delete]