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Stop Cooking Your Own Goose


"Any time you sit, think about, and "stew" over what someone did to you, or simmer in anger about some past event, the real reason for your pain is because you're cooking your own goose!" - GF

Deep down in the depths of the earth the devils were gathered together for a special meeting. The head devil was shouting at his flock and telling them that he needed something powerful to be able to combat certain spiritual aspirants who were starting to take seriously the notion of God's life actually being lived out in a human being.

"Some of these idiotic humans are starting to see through our lies and realize that they don't have to be subject to fear, discouragement and all of our usual tricks.  AND they are beginning to suspect that they can be free of our kingdom all together. This is an outrage and cannot happen. We need one of you to create an antidote to their spiritual longings."

 One by one, the apprentice devils came up with their suggestions, but each one was rejected and they were roasted in the fire of the head devil's fury.  

But there was one devil who was the head chef in Hell's Kitchen who approached the head devil and said, "Master I have a special recipe for unending torment that is guaranteed to keep these subjects in our bad graces forever and it is in the form of a recipe called Negativity Stew. If they follow my recipe they will have an impossible time escaping our grasp."

Here is how the recipe read.

First, get offended or upset about any unwanted moment.  

Then quickly remind yourself over and over how much you don't want what just happened.

Start remembering everything you don't like about that person or unwanted event. Remember how useless it is to try to deal with this person because you know you're right and they are always wrong.

 If it is an event, it's always helpful to bring similar past events that annoyed you and go over and over them thoroughly. Continue thinking about what bothers you as much as possible.

Now notice how your breathing is getting shallow. That's important because you are restricting the oxygen that is getting to your brain so your reasoning center becomes diminished. This is crucial to making sure the consistency of the stew is nice and thick.

Next, start blending the ingredients into your stew as you increase the heat by continuing to remember why you're upset and add as many reasons as possible while your constantly stirring. Make sure you never become still while making stew. It's crucial that you keep stirring and stirring.

You will find yourself having brief moments of lucidity which tell you to stop making the stew and that its not going to be good for you.  However, if you just listen closely to all your self-justifying reasons, you'll have no problem continuing to cook your poisonous feast.

Now, keep telling yourself you hate this feeling of negativity because resistance is a primary ingredient in helping you remember how bad your life is and how wrong this situation is. Bring in all your usual worries and problems about money, what you don't like about your life, your relationships, the incredibly stupid people in the world, and your pathetic repetitious life.

Now, and most important, start complaining about what you don't like about doing spiritual work.  It's too hard and you might suffer if you continue. Rest assured you will be able to bring in hundreds of internal allies to convince you of why making negativity stew is the most important thing to do right now. Don't let go of these important strong dark feelings.

Pick apart everything about your wish to be a new human being. Listen closely to the voices that show you that "you will never get this" so why not quit now and begin to have your own life.

Keep stirring and mulling over everything that you don't want about your life and your spiritual work and you will have created the most pungent negativity stew imaginable. Oh and by the way it's good to keep some at all times in the freezer so if you need a quick meal you will have some readily available to heat up quickly.

The last couple of days I made a rich, thick negativity stew. It was the worst tasting inner meal I've had in years. It consisted of the above ingredients and more. I wasn't able to separate from the negativity so I suffered from the poison of the stew. However with a small whisper of intention to get out of the stewpot I was able to finally step out, shake myself off and begin to see the process of where I had allowed myself to be.  

These negative forces arrive to show us what we need to see about our self, where we are missing the mark and to actually help us. For me it was showing a particular character trait that I have been unwilling to look at until now. That's why Guy is always telling us to welcome what life is trying to show us. It's for our benefit not our punishment. The punishment only comes from our resistance not from the unwanted moment. My wish is to work harder at the first signs of the devilish chef and his negativity stew.

Here are two short sentences from Wednesday night's talk that will help us in our aim to become an authentic human being.

"To spend one moment not wanting binds you to the negative state" - GF

"Real freedom is autonomy from all states" - GF

Doug Norby/Alive Guide Host/ 6/14/09

 

Comments

 

lovelight1015 said:

Doug,

EXCELLENT writing, loved the way you shared that story and made it so vivid in my mind about how we create and ingest our own brew of negativity stew.  The illustration really brought to life your point - THE point!

What this writing helped me just wake up to and realize is that I use to identify with a spiral or whirlpool like vision whenever I saw myself being overtaken by negativity.  And I just now realized that that viewpoint kept me in a victim state of mind, as if some whirlwind or whirlpool surrounded me and sucked me into it.  I see now that with as much as I thought I had learned and grown, I was still attached to being a victim of the state of mind, not truly realizing I was at once creating and resisting it.

This idea of cooking up this negativity stew for me was like a light bulb went off.  Choosing to put down the spoon when you find yourself stirring and stirring the pot can be so self empowering as you realize that you don't have to continue to increase the negative state you find yourself in.  You don't even have to resist or judge the whole fact that you started cooking up something distasteful and unhealthy.  You just turn off the stove and walk away from it. Next negative state I wake up to, you can bet what I just read will come to mind.

I know its all about awareness and I also know that illustrations, like the one you shared here (and the ones Guy so artistically shares with us all on a continuous basis) hit home and wake us up.

Keep up the great writing!

With Light and Peace,

Stephanie

June 15, 2009 11:32 AM [Delete]
 

wcattin said:

Stephanie,

I couldn't see how to stop simmering the stew but your comment shed light on it, it is the realization that "we don't have to resist or judge the whole fact that we started cooking up something distateful". As underlined it in the devils' story, it is the second step, the re-ignition of the pot : the resistance to the pain caused by the too bitter stew.

It is a all-in-one self : cooker, eater, and judge.  

June 16, 2009 12:54 AM [Delete]
 

peterr said:

Ahh! Mmmm! Yummy! Lovely stew, ?me? favourite! As many a deadly pirate on a high-seas-ghost-ship would say.

Stew and dumplings, Hot Pot, Irish stew, Hungarian Goulash with sour cream on top, are all mouth wateringly delicious varieties of stews from around the world. And, just like most people in the world, ?me? also gets stuck in a variety of negativity stews; enjoying each morsel it thinks of because, in a cannibalistic way, ?me? loves the faux-Ratatouille it creates - as it loves itself. Yet, it is not satisfied, as one would with say a genuine Beef Bourguignon or a Chilli con carne, because ?me? is feeding on empty thoughts.

One of the world?s negative stews that I sometimes spoon myself is Regretful Stew - this one has far too much salt in it. It comes from first looking at the vessel (which is me), thinks there is a lack (education, possessions, awards etc.), and then looks back at missed chances. Wrongly, comparing with others vessels, I think that additives are required, I think that what I am missing should have been added some time in the past so in looking back I simply add more salt (without flavour) in the form of inner emotionally tears.

Even an old salt like me can lose his appetite for such gruel. Like Oliver Twist I can now call its bluff and even if I ask for more I know no matter how much of it is concurred up by my mind it has no sustenance as there is no substance.    

June 17, 2009 12:25 PM [Delete]
 

peterr said:

Looking back at what I have written above, a pang of regret comes over me as realise I could have said said Rue Stew instead of Regretful Stew.

Yet,  apart from it making for a better sound-bite, it does show how my mind, ever intend to impress others, can cook itself up an alphabet soup of a dish to worry about. Happily, by inspecting the workings of the kitchen I see that the demon chefs have created the Stress-to-impress Stew. An inspectors report for the Mind-Food-Guide would suggest that the kitchen be closed down for being unhealthy.

PS

In the last paragraph I should have said conjured not concurred. The cooks been given orders to quit.        

June 18, 2009 11:59 AM [Delete]
 

clydeman50 said:

Thanks for the colorful blog this week Doug. I feel that all of us outside of southern Oregon are waiting as patiently as humanly possible, sitting on our hands, figuratively, waiting for the hush of the pines to lift.

Afterall, the man can't be a 24/7 dicta-phone like I sometimes wish he could be.

Peter, I always enjoy your commentary when you give it. It has Lewis Carroll-esque quality to it, or at least, that's the way I hear it.

I, as well, cooked up a sour stew I can never resist making out of the remnants of a "spotted dog" scraped off my freon-leaky freezer.

I saw unpleasant events coming my way this past week, and I set myself appropriately enough thinking "toward" the event rather than "from" it. I seemed to benefit well in bits of honest self-observation. It was an early start to my day 4:45, for me anyway.

Anyway, round about mid afternoon the little leg of my crock-pot gave out and spotted-dog came sloshing out across the counter and on to the floor.

A little TOO much thinking about myself I think, and like Stephanie said it's like a "whirlpool" sucking you in from whence you no not where. It's maybe like watching traffic go by and suddenly finding yourself road-kill.

This, a little unrelated, I was driving busy highway 25 when I saw a sign being towed by an airplane high over Denver. I pointed it out to the kids. Maybe, drained by lack of good sleep, I had a senstion of my attention being sucked inexorably away from the speeding traffic around me to the sickly drifting ad sign. I was thinking, could my attention just drift away entirely a few moments and find myself in an accident. Did it matter much that the sign was advertising car insurance?!

June 19, 2009 7:07 PM [Delete]
 

wcattin said:

Hello,

In an interview on CBC, the interviewer asks the interviewee a very simple question : "what do you answer to those who say that God is a fairy tale ?". I won't interfere in this debate.

But clearly, there are a lot of fairy tales running at the mental level, and it is true for all human beings. They are going undetected most of the time. So the only fact to notice that "we" are in the middle of one of them when it happens, is already a step towards freedom.

What complicates a lot the willingness to start looking for the Truth (Light, God...) ? Why was I "on my breaks"  for three decades ? It is simple, as long as I presumed I was already conscious the search was groundless. But in the long run, when we realized we mentally, psychologically and emotionally suffer from the same kind of thoughts, rerun pasts, anticipated joys opposing the present moment, comparisons of all orders, hopeless ideas (not exhaustive list), we have the revelation that there is very little consciousness in our life. That is also a strong and repetitive indication that we are their captive, that we inadvertently gave them carte blanche to rule our own life. So, what's remaining is a kind of residual consciousness. And here comes a second revelation. It doesn't matter how long and deeply we are unconsciously driven by them, how many depressions come in the way, they cannot have the power to prevent anybody to stand up and start the quest. In reality, they are absolutely powerless, as the clouds are to make disappear the sun. As Guy Finley encourages us, if I have well understood, it is more than that, we can still search in the worst crisis, we can learn to suffer consciously.

June 21, 2009 2:13 PM [Delete]